How I Turned My Vacation Around In One Simple Maneuver
How I Turned My Vacation Around In One Simple Maneuver
There I was, trying to fix our 'failed' family vacation, when I noticed my people-pleasing tendencies coming to the surface again. I was feeling guilty for not planning the perfect vacation, even though I knew that Portugal in February is a lot like the Gulf Coast - unpredictable weather, things shut down, and just not the right time to go. But I figured I should have known that in advance, and I was scrambling to salvage things and 'make' everyone happy.
What I needed to do was relax and give myself permission to accept that I had done my best. It's easy for people-pleasers to fall into the trap of feeling responsible for the happiness of those around them, but the truth is that we can't control everything, no matter how hard we try. And that's okay.
People Pleasing
I realized that trying to please everyone was not only going to be exhausting, but also ultimately unfulfilling. It was time to take responsibility for my own needs and desires, and let others own their happiness.
After that, paradoxically, the vacation got way better. We started having fun exploring beaches, laughing about nothing, and went to a local town and did an escape room (totally our thing— we are ‘those people’).
If this sounds familiar to you, you're not alone. People-pleasers often have a hidden need to control others, and we can find ourselves constantly trying to manipulate social situations or outcomes of different circumstances. But the reality is that we can't always control what happens around us - we can only control our own reactions and responses.
Break Free From People Pleasing
That's why I'm so passionate about helping others break free from people-pleasing and the need for control. It's not easy, but it's worth it. By embracing a new mindset and letting go of the need to control everything, you can start living a more authentic, fulfilling life.
If you're ready to make a change in your life, let's chat! Sign up for a free Heart to Heart consult with me and together we can identify one thing you can start doing today to make big waves in your life. Remember, a change in mindset can have huge impacts!
